Saturday, November 26, 2011

Living in the Present

Maybe with the holidays season in full gear and the end of the year rapidly approaching it makes me look at my life. Am I the person I want to be?

Physically - no. My BMI puts me at obese. Now looking at me obese isn't what comes to mind. I'm well proportioned. Yes, have it going on in the front and the back to quote Beauty Shop. However, I'm trying to get fit. While my dream would be to have a body similar to Cindy Crawford - she's fat, she's not overly thin, and she has curves. This is what a woman should strive to look like - not a little boy with boobs. However, I'm going to enjoy food, and of course, beer. I just need to be more physically active. This I'm working on improving.

Mentally - no. While many do think I'm smart; I realize how much I don't know. I remember reading a long time ago that really smart people realize how much they don't know. Yes, it does frustrate me that I would rather read and know the real reason why Demi and Ashton are getting a divorce rather than the reason why our Congress cannot put together a budget. I need to read more classic books. I need to know more history. Maybe I am smart, but I want to know more.

Spiritually - no. I know I need work here. I'm a cradle Catholic. I'm disappointed in most of the changes to our mass coming up next week. Especially the "earth peace." Um, have we discovered life on other planets? What if I want to wish someone Jupiter peace? I guess since Pluto, everyone's favorite planet in my opinion has been down graded to a dwarf planet, I guess I cannot wish anyone Pluto peace. Maybe Pluto or Jupiter peace would be better than Earth peace . Why discriminate since this is only where we happen to live? I think Descartes was full of air (or something else) when he was able to deny everything existed - even the computer I'm typing on, yet God existed. The one thing that keeps my belief, no matter how bad it seems, nearly every culture believes in a power higher than themselves. That power is usually one main God and there are smaller gods or saints below them. These are few of my thoughts. I know religion is a very passionate subject to many. If anyone is reading this, and you have strong opinions, please follow your belief and walk the walk rather than just talking it.

Emotionally - no. I'm struggling with my place in this world. If you are not married and don't have children it seems like you really don't belong. I have a tendency to push people away. There are very few people living or dead that know the whole me. Most people get a part or two, but not enough to piece together a whole picture. While I can say it is because I'm not close with my family and have very few friends. I know I'm not always the friend that I should be, but I do try. For any relationship to be successful it takes two people. It is about give and take and the roles must change.

While my answer is no to the above categories I'm not unhappy with my life. I look at where I want to be and times I'm not quite sure how to get there. I've often made the mistake of living too much in the past or too much in the future and neglect the present. I'm working on this too. Living in the present is a very challenging task.

Physically, I'm trying to walk more and hope the weather will cooperate. Dr. Andrew Weill once stated walking is the best form of exercise and you don't need to do any other. Today I was wondering how women in the pre-Civil war days stayed in shape. I really don't see how they could get in much exercise with the hoop skirt. What are we doing wrong?

Mentally, I'm reading more books. My current challenge is to read a book about each President of the United States in other of election. I'm trying to mix the fiction with non-fiction.

Spiritually, I'm going to church and trying to put my trust in the Lord to do what he wants. I'm finding out I'm a bit of a control freak and this is a challenge.

Emotionally, I'm trying to weed out those that bring about negativity and leave those that are positive in my life. Make others earn my trust rather than just giving it to them.

That are the thoughts at the top of my head. I'm trying to live and not just go though the motions of life.

Until next time...

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Do the shoes make the man?

I read this story and was amazed. Here is a young man that made a bet that he could have easily swept under the rug and no one would remember a thing about it. It really seems like the world has changed. No longer is “my word” and a handshake acceptable we must have a contract for our attorneys to go over – and don’t forget to read the small print!

We’ve also become so much more judging. He said that people thought he was poor because of his shoes. I wonder what his social life was like at school – which group did he belong to? If you don’t wear the right clothes you won’t fit in. We all desperately wanted to fit in when we were in school.

One of the things I just read was don’t worry about getting the approval of other people because people are self focused and are wanting to get your approval of them. Is this what life is about – trying to get approval from others?

In college there was a guy that had dreds and walked barefoot even in snow. One day the University Daily Kansan did an article on him. He said as a youth his family went to Alaska. There he walked on the tundra barefoot and enjoyed the feeling so much that he wanted to experience the world though his feet. This goes to show there is always more to the story. Maybe the hippie guy has it right – maybe we should experience life how we want to and not give a damn what others think. Oh, yeah, he did carry a cheap pair of flip flops in his back pack when he went into places that required shoes.

The more I think about it shoes really doesn’t make the man, because both of these men are very interesting, but their shoes weren’t. Why am I in a competition with Imelda Marcos for shoes?

Monday, December 29, 2008

The Dark Knight

This is definitely a movie to see on the big screen. I will admit I have enjoyed all the Batman movies – even with Val Kilmer and the batsuit with nipples. Before the Nolan involvement my favorite was the original one with Michael Keaton, but I will say Batman Begins is now and still my favorite. I will put The Dark Knight in between Batman Begins and Batman.

Batman is my favorite superhero because he is an ordinary man without superpowers. While he is a vigilante he tries to do the right thing.

People are saying that Heath Ledger should receive an Oscar for his performance. I thought he did an excellent job as the Joker. He made the character his own which can be difficult when you think about Jack Nicholson’s performance. However, movies of this type are rarely nominated. I would hate for him to be nominated because of his unfortunate death.

I was a bit disappointed they didn’t do more with Harvey Dent as Two-Face. But then even before they had Two-Face with the Riddler. I did like they way the ideals one holds can be thrown away under tragic circumstances.

I also wish that Maggie Gyllenhaal was the first Rachel Dawes or had brought back Katie Holmes. Out of the two Maggie was more believable, but Rachel was not a main character either.

The Dark Knight is a great edition to the Batman franchise and I hope that Christopher and Jonathan Nolan stay with it. They returned Batman from a cartoon to an action hero.

Nights in Rodanthe

This movie is based on the book by Nicholas Sparks. It is an enjoyable movie to watch, but my biggest criticism about it would be how could one weekend “save your life?” I would label myself to be the walking oxymoron of the cynical hopeless romantic. Yes, I believe “the one” exists and I even believe in the overused term of “soul mate.” I happen to believe mine is a very late bloomer or is no longer alive.

The scenery is absolutely beautiful. I would love to stay in that beach house and walk along that beach. I would also love to find a community that has those clam bakes. This is the perfect setting in my mind.

I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason. That reason may not last as long as we would like it to, but we learn something or appreciate something because of that person. In this movie you see how their lives had changed because of their meeting, and even falling in love.

I cannot find the quote from it, but in the end she tells her daughter not to settle on love. The person that you love should not make you someone that you are not and not less than what you are.

This is not a movie I will buy, but it was
a nice one to watch.

Angry Housewives Eating Bon Bons

I read this book for a book club I have joined. Not to insult my book club, but I wish mine was more like this one. They were friends that helped each other out. The one I am in is almost too large and we’re not really comfortable in expressing strong opinions.

It starts out in the 1960s and goes into the 1990s. There is Slip – the activist, Audrey – the curvy sexpot, Faith – the liar of her past, Kari – the widow, and Merit – the survivor of domestic abuse. While more books were read each chapter is about the person that chose a particular book – some books were discussed more than others. However, you could see these women being neighbors and even friends.

I found this book to be very hard to put down and I really enjoyed the characters and how they grew in their 30 years together as a book club. We also got to see how their children grew and became the people they are because of their mothers. I wrote down the books they had mentioned in the book to read, and I had already read some of them. I would also like to read more books by Lorna Landvik.


I really enjoyed this book on Queen Elizabeth II. Most biographies will make you really like a person or not like them. I walked away feeling pretty much the same about her. She is very much a traditionalist and trying to rule as her father would have, and often times this would cause her to make a decision without making a decision. One would be on not forcing Winston Churchill to resign due to health reasons, and the other involved her sister wanting to marry a divorced man. Other times is showed she has a lot of bravery – especially trying to stop a run away carriage and an assassination attempt.

Diana is often referred to as the People’s Princess, and from reading this book, before she was Queen, Elizabeth, was the People’s Princess. I think the two might not have liked each other very much because there were many similarities. However, the main reason Lilibet did not open her heart to Diana is because of her actions before she married Charles. Both were age 19 when they married. Lilibet was crazy about Phillip and this (her) love is what has kept them married for so many years, and she never saw that with Diana.

This book also makes one think of alternate history. What if during World War II had Hitler succeeded in invading Great Britain, and reestablished King Edward XII (a Nazi sympathizer) to the thrown.

From reading this book I have a much better understanding about Queen Elizabeth II and the British monarchy.

No Greater Love

Every now and then I’ve got to have a mindless read and Danielle Steele fits the bill. I had friends in high school that would only read her books. There are a few I really like and I could put No Greater Love in that category. Edwina is 20 years old and on the return portion of her engagement trip on the Titanic her parents and fiancée are unable to leave the ship. She is left to raise her siblings on her own. Mourning her fiancée she will not consider marriage to anyone until the children are grown. Phillip leaves to attend Harvard, but drops out to fit in World War I or the Great War. George is the next to go to Harvard, but leaves to go to Hollywood and make movies. George becomes a success and his younger sister Alexis dreams of becoming an actress. Not only are George and Alexis’ futures held in Hollywood, but Edwina’s also ends up there.

While most Danielle Steele novels have similar plots this was a fun but sad read. She stayed true with the character and there was no dramatic jump which left me thinking where did this come from?

My favorite Danielle Steele books are: Wings, Jewels, and Mixed Blessings. I can now add No Greater Love to that list.